What do you do when someone you love and trust isn’t completely honest with you? Are they trying not to hurt you? Do they think they’re sheltering you from the pain? Or do they know exactly what they are doing?
Hurt and pain is inevitable in life. The more you try to hide someone from that, the more they will eventually experience it in the future. Personally, I like to hear the truth, regardless of how it may make me feel at that moment. I will have much more respect for you in the end and we’ll come through it together, our friendship stronger than ever.
Maybe I come off as a weak person. This is not the case. I usually laugh at the things that my friends have come clean with in the past - especially when they think it’ll change the way I view them. Because my response is usually: “Trust me - I’ve heard much worse.”
In the end, it’s not just me you’re lying to - it’s yourself as well. Some people get so wrapped up in their lies that they end up believing it to be the full truth. Others are so torn up about it that they end up not knowing who they really are deep down, causing them to change the way they act.
Then there are those that are just full of betrayal and deceit. These people can be so good, that they can sweet talk the devil into eating his own toe nail clippings. I would love to believe that I have never met someone of this nature but lately it seems like that may not be the case.
I want someone to trust. I want to be trusted as well. By friends, by family, by lovers. I’m reminded of the episode of True Blood (aaahhhh TB philosophy!!) - Season 2, episode 11 - when Eric asks Sam: “Why should I trust you?” and Sam replies: “Because until somebody starts trusting somebody, we’re all single targets, just ripe for the picking.”
I had a great discussion last night with three really good friends. Three guys that I have not met in person, but I have known online for close to seven years. And believe me - they are amazing. We banter, we bullshit, we make fun of each other; we’re like family. Because if someone messes with one of us, trust me, they will see the wrath of the other three.
Knowing I have friends like this, regardless of how we know each other, means the world to me. I had a tough time dealing with some friend/love/trust issues yesterday and they helped talk me through it. I also received some input from a couple other friends - for that, I am grateful.
So pull the shades away from your eyes and answer me: Why lie? At the end of the day, what do we both gain from it?
